The UTM Sexual Education & Peer Counseling Centre hosted an Oral Sex Workshop on February 10 which was open to both men and women. Facilitated by Carlyle Jansen, the owner and founder of the Toronto sex toy store, Good for Her, the event saw an attendance of more than forty students crowded into a small room in the Student Centre.
Opening with a discussion on communication and how important it can be when it comes to intimacy, Jansen pointed out that the key to good oral sex is communicating desire. Oral sex doesnt have to be foreplay. When partners have that mentality, they go into it thinking that it will eventually lead to intercourse and that can be a big turn off, Jansen said.
The main focus of the discussion was various techniques, positions, and debunking myths such as the sensationalized sixtynine position. This can be, Jansen insisted, just like communism; its fair, its equal, and it usually doesnt work.
Some of the techniques that Jansen revealed included The Dolphin, The Figure Eight, and The Toothbrush. The workshop also included an anatomy lesson that highlighted things that your high school sexual education teachers probably left out. I had always thought that the g-spot was a myth. I cant believe that all [women] have one. said workshop attendee, UTM student Sarah Elman.
Jansen also spoke briefly about the deep-throat technique. The trick is overcoming your gag reflex, she explained. The gag reflex is what keeps you from choking when you eat or drink something. Her advice was to practice on your partner or a dildo regularly. It will improve your technique when it comes to [oral sex], but it also makes you more likely to choke on food, she said half-jokingly.
In addition to the valuable knowledge gained from the workshop, each attendee walked away with hand-outs which included flavor- enhancing home remedies. There was a great turn-out and the workshop was very interactive. Overall I think it was a big success, declared Dawnalda Brennan, SEC coordinator.
For more information or to get copies of the hand-outs, visit the SEC office in the Student Centre, Room 150.